She was not in very best of her judgemental capacity when her father had fixed her marriage with an unknown person, at least unknown to her for sure. Afraid of her father, as well as not very much sure of herself, she did not say raise much objection and followed what her fate had for her.
Her new house was different, in almost all aspects, for her. Her ego did not let her change herself and her new family did not change it's rules and principles for her a lot. She, still not sure of herself, only relied on her mother and her husband for advice, both of whom could not see the situation as deeply as it was required, as they were in their own roles.
Her husband tried to solve her problems by telling her what to do in some situations, but she could not follow them because that would mean forgetting her previous family and focussing on the new family where she is sent. She still felt responsible for her old family. Her indifference to the new members isolated her in her new house and due to societal pressures, she could not break the shackles and go back to live in her old home.
Her new family was experiencing this stress for the first time, where nothing wrong is done, but there is an environment of stress everywhere, because there is a family member now, who does not consider herself to be a part her, who thinks people are against her and the only people who can protect her are her old family mates, her siblings and her parents. May be the rules of the new family were too much for her to follow; or may be the new family was genuinely very bad, contrary to the perceptions made by the society for over 50 years.
She had two options to choose, both of them demanded sacrifice. In one case, the sacrifice of her ego and her teachings of old family which were causing troubles in her new family. In other case, the sacrifice of her newly found husband friend and also the new associated pains of discipline, restrictions and solitude. Unfortunately, she has not yet been able to choose.
Her dilemma is very strong, as there are for sure a few items in both the options which she does not want to sacrifice, and a few items which she wishes to.
She has to decide where to take the next step. She does not like being finger held and shown the path. Everyone is waiting for her to take the next leap. Her husband, her mother, her in laws, her siblings, and may be she herself.
Her new house was different, in almost all aspects, for her. Her ego did not let her change herself and her new family did not change it's rules and principles for her a lot. She, still not sure of herself, only relied on her mother and her husband for advice, both of whom could not see the situation as deeply as it was required, as they were in their own roles.
Her husband tried to solve her problems by telling her what to do in some situations, but she could not follow them because that would mean forgetting her previous family and focussing on the new family where she is sent. She still felt responsible for her old family. Her indifference to the new members isolated her in her new house and due to societal pressures, she could not break the shackles and go back to live in her old home.
Her dilemma is very strong, as there are for sure a few items in both the options which she does not want to sacrifice, and a few items which she wishes to.
She has to decide where to take the next step. She does not like being finger held and shown the path. Everyone is waiting for her to take the next leap. Her husband, her mother, her in laws, her siblings, and may be she herself.
